The murder trial has started this week of 5 Suffolk prostitutes.The interest in the case at the time didn't seem appropriate, yes it was covered for a few weeks and then all forgotten until this week.
The parents of those girls must have been devastated,not just by their deaths which were traumatic enough,but also by the way that the public didn't seem that bothered because of their roles in society.
The question is did these girls choose prostitution as their careers?.....somehow I doubt it.
They all had a drug problem,more than likely introduced by their pimps.
These girls were all exploited,let down by society and even more so let down by the authorities who quite frankly don't care.
Social workers are only interested if they can get a happy outcome and place a tick in their case complete box.
How many more young girls will have their lives ruined by pimps?
How long will it take for the authorities to stand up and take notice?
Thursday, 17 January 2008
Monday, 14 January 2008
6th form applications
This week is very important for my daughter's friends, it's their last chance to apply for places in the 6th form at the school where they have matured from pre-teens into outstanding young ladies and gentlemen.
The school is very special, one of the few Grammar schools left and has outstanding results.More than that though is the very special bond that the pupils have both with teachers and fellow pupils.
The year 11 pupils have now reached the stage when most of them will go on to the 6th form , and in a few years time many will then follow on to University.
My daughter, like her friends and classmates had such an amazing future ahead of her, there was never any pressure, just the knowledge that with such a good start to life they could achieve whatever dreams and aspirations they had.
So what does the future hold for her now?
Who knows.
A far cry from the safe and sheltered environment she was used to.
It's never too late to turn back the clock
The school is very special, one of the few Grammar schools left and has outstanding results.More than that though is the very special bond that the pupils have both with teachers and fellow pupils.
The year 11 pupils have now reached the stage when most of them will go on to the 6th form , and in a few years time many will then follow on to University.
My daughter, like her friends and classmates had such an amazing future ahead of her, there was never any pressure, just the knowledge that with such a good start to life they could achieve whatever dreams and aspirations they had.
So what does the future hold for her now?
Who knows.
A far cry from the safe and sheltered environment she was used to.
It's never too late to turn back the clock
Sunday, 13 January 2008
Saturday, 12 January 2008
January weekends
So much happens in a year,many things change,time never stands still,perhaps that's a good thing sometimes,we all wish at some point in our lives that we could turn back time.
When I look back to this time last year our nightmare was just beginning,I remember attending parents evening,telling some of the teachers that I was concerned about my daughter's relationship with a man.They reassured me that her schoolwork wasn't affected so not to worry,she was doing so well,on target to have such a promissing future,her whole life ahead of her.
Of course events were to move on very quickly from then,becoming out of control so soon it took everyone by surprise.
We used to walk around car boot sales,looking for bargains,this time last year we went to one such sale,our daughter had been shopping the day before and had returned very happy with a bag full of gifts from a boy she had told us she knew from school.While we were out that day she received a disturbing phone call,from the man ,he was threatening to kill himself because he said that she didn't love him.
In hindsight it would have been better if he had gone through with it,of course we now know that this was just one of his many silly games.
This saga of shopping and then suicide threats was to happen a further 3 weekends running,our diary from last year shows our total dispair.We consulted parentline,the police,the samaritans and social services but no-one seemed to understand sexual grooming.
The only good thing was that she was still attending school,bringing some sort of normailty to everyone's lives,especially hers.
So what about this year,a very different situation.
There are now 3 of us living at home,we don't do car boot sales anymore,in fact every aspect of our lives has changed.
I guess the only thing that remains the same is our son,he has regained his wicked sense of humour that was missing for so long last year.
He has changed so much,grown up into a fantastic young man,I'm so immensly proud of him.
We are now very aware of the dark side of life in this country,something that we were totally unaware of this time last year.
I have spent some time on the phone today,helping out another family,being a shoulder to cry on,a listening ear,someone to sound off at.
You see our case is far from unique,this sort of thing is happening on a daily basis to families all over the country.It doesn't matter what background you come from,where abouts in the country you live,or how you have brought your children up.These men are total scum,they get a kick out of ruining other people's lives,for their own personal gain.
When I look back to this time last year our nightmare was just beginning,I remember attending parents evening,telling some of the teachers that I was concerned about my daughter's relationship with a man.They reassured me that her schoolwork wasn't affected so not to worry,she was doing so well,on target to have such a promissing future,her whole life ahead of her.
Of course events were to move on very quickly from then,becoming out of control so soon it took everyone by surprise.
We used to walk around car boot sales,looking for bargains,this time last year we went to one such sale,our daughter had been shopping the day before and had returned very happy with a bag full of gifts from a boy she had told us she knew from school.While we were out that day she received a disturbing phone call,from the man ,he was threatening to kill himself because he said that she didn't love him.
In hindsight it would have been better if he had gone through with it,of course we now know that this was just one of his many silly games.
This saga of shopping and then suicide threats was to happen a further 3 weekends running,our diary from last year shows our total dispair.We consulted parentline,the police,the samaritans and social services but no-one seemed to understand sexual grooming.
The only good thing was that she was still attending school,bringing some sort of normailty to everyone's lives,especially hers.
So what about this year,a very different situation.
There are now 3 of us living at home,we don't do car boot sales anymore,in fact every aspect of our lives has changed.
I guess the only thing that remains the same is our son,he has regained his wicked sense of humour that was missing for so long last year.
He has changed so much,grown up into a fantastic young man,I'm so immensly proud of him.
We are now very aware of the dark side of life in this country,something that we were totally unaware of this time last year.
I have spent some time on the phone today,helping out another family,being a shoulder to cry on,a listening ear,someone to sound off at.
You see our case is far from unique,this sort of thing is happening on a daily basis to families all over the country.It doesn't matter what background you come from,where abouts in the country you live,or how you have brought your children up.These men are total scum,they get a kick out of ruining other people's lives,for their own personal gain.
Tuesday, 8 January 2008
The garden
The garden looks bare and forelorn,not just the time of year,it's lost it's sparkle.
I have so many memories of you growing up,since we moved here when you were 3 yrs old.
You used to play on the swing and slide,push your dolls up the garden path in the pram,bounce forever on the trampoline.How many paddling pools did you and your brother wear out? You used to make a den around them so that the old man next door couldn't see you in your swimming costume.
But of course there were some special friends out there too,
Spotty,Mrs Hoppy,Furyboo,Splodge,Sixpence,Flopsy,Flip-flop,Silky,Smokie and not forgetting George the Tortoise.
The rabbits were so special to you,you loved them with all your heart,seeing to their every need.You even used to walk them around the garden with collar and leads,just like little puppies.
Flip-flop terrified everyone except you,she used to attack anyone who went in the garden,but with you she would be as calm as anything.
There are a few things that upset me about the garden now,the Oak trees neglected in their pots,the Korean fir,of all the years to finally produce purple fir cones it has to be when you have gone.
But most of all the trampoline,it now sits silently,no more squeaking springs,no more giggly teenage girls,no more chat about boys,make-up,Harry Potter and such like.
The garden grew with you and matured, just as you matured into a beautiful young woman,
but the garden wasn't ready to say goodbye,like your family and friends it misses you and needs you back.
I have so many memories of you growing up,since we moved here when you were 3 yrs old.
You used to play on the swing and slide,push your dolls up the garden path in the pram,bounce forever on the trampoline.How many paddling pools did you and your brother wear out? You used to make a den around them so that the old man next door couldn't see you in your swimming costume.
But of course there were some special friends out there too,
Spotty,Mrs Hoppy,Furyboo,Splodge,Sixpence,Flopsy,Flip-flop,Silky,Smokie and not forgetting George the Tortoise.
The rabbits were so special to you,you loved them with all your heart,seeing to their every need.You even used to walk them around the garden with collar and leads,just like little puppies.
Flip-flop terrified everyone except you,she used to attack anyone who went in the garden,but with you she would be as calm as anything.
There are a few things that upset me about the garden now,the Oak trees neglected in their pots,the Korean fir,of all the years to finally produce purple fir cones it has to be when you have gone.
But most of all the trampoline,it now sits silently,no more squeaking springs,no more giggly teenage girls,no more chat about boys,make-up,Harry Potter and such like.
The garden grew with you and matured, just as you matured into a beautiful young woman,
but the garden wasn't ready to say goodbye,like your family and friends it misses you and needs you back.
Monday, 7 January 2008
From little bro with love
I'm writing this *****,
Without hope or agenda,
Knowing fully well,
It's no relationship mender,
Just to remind you,
There are people who care,
They care about you,
And your welfare.
That sounds like a line,
From a social worker's mouth,
Those up here,
And those in the south.
They put us in meetings,
With conclusions to make,
Most used word : Optimistic,
But our smiles are fake.
Of course you still don't believe,
That we are at all bothered,
About where you are now,
And by who you're being slobbered.
Those who pay attention,
Will already know,
The answer to the latter,
Has become our foe.
He knows what you want,
Or so you think,
Little do you know,
His brain is on the blink.
You know damn well,
That the accusations made,
Are ludicrous lies,
And the blame is ricocheted.
The sweet young girl,
That we know and love,
Would never do this,
She would give him a shove.
You had a great education,
Better than most,
And handfuls of friends,
But you weren't one to boast.
Without hope or agenda,
Knowing fully well,
It's no relationship mender,
Just to remind you,
There are people who care,
They care about you,
And your welfare.
That sounds like a line,
From a social worker's mouth,
Those up here,
And those in the south.
They put us in meetings,
With conclusions to make,
Most used word : Optimistic,
But our smiles are fake.
Of course you still don't believe,
That we are at all bothered,
About where you are now,
And by who you're being slobbered.
Those who pay attention,
Will already know,
The answer to the latter,
Has become our foe.
He knows what you want,
Or so you think,
Little do you know,
His brain is on the blink.
You know damn well,
That the accusations made,
Are ludicrous lies,
And the blame is ricocheted.
The sweet young girl,
That we know and love,
Would never do this,
She would give him a shove.
You had a great education,
Better than most,
And handfuls of friends,
But you weren't one to boast.
Saturday, 5 January 2008
Birthday greetings
In the run up to my daughter's 16th birthday her schoolfriends made a photo/scrap book with messages and photos,they gave it to me for safekeeping.
I haven't been able to pass this on to my daughter yet and am not sure if I ever will,so I'm going to post a few extracts here,in the hope that one day she will see them.
The book is full of photos,some of which we had never seen,natural,happy shots taken with mobile phones.These pics mean so much to me,the natural image of my happy daughter,before her life was torn appart .
__________________________________________________________________
To *****
Remember the good times?
French,icing,friends,hangouts and Mk trips?
We miss you
We love you
Happy 16th Birthday!=D
Love T
__________________________________________________________________
Happy 16th
Just wish we were there to share this birthday with you:)
-just knowing you are safe would make us happy
Meet up again someday?
That'd be great
Hope to see you safe and well,
E x
__________________________________________________________________
To *****
Happy 16th Birthday !:)
I hope you have a great day bbe and I'll be thinking of you:)
It would be great if you could get in contact with one of us just so we know you're safe and as happy as you deserve to be
I love you so much *****
never forget that
Lots of love L xxxxx
__________________________________________________________________
*****
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
I hope you have a wonderful day,wherever you are.
We still miss you loads,and it would put our hearts at ease if we could know you are OK,
but as long as you are happy it doesn't matter:)
You're missed loads,so I hope we get a chance to gather up in a big group and chat some day,
Love C xxxx
__________________________________________________________________
Dear *****
Love you so much and I miss you loads.I hope you come back so we can celebrate your birthday together with trampoline fun and going crazy in the shed!
We had so much fun that day-I'll never forget it.
I think about you all the time and I can't wait to see you again,
Lots & lots of love
K
__________________________________________________________________
Dear *****
I miss you more than anything and I know that when you get back you"ll look through this album and remember the good times.
I love you so much,
counting the days until you come home
xxx A xxx
__________________________________________________________________
Hi *****:)
I'm sitting here in your garden a few days before your birthday and it doesn't feel right.
I wish you were here babes=C
Happy 16th birthday!
I love you so much and I really hope you'll be back as soon as you can.
We all miss you so much =C
Love T xxx
__________________________________________________________________
Grief and worry eats into my soul.
wish you were here,I couldn't wish more x x x
Happy 16th birthday *****
I miss you :(
Remember last year? lol
Bing back the good times
__________________________________________________________________
We all miss you so much *****
Geography isn't the same when you are not next to me.
I hope you are safe and well,I really hope you are happy too
Love you so much
S x x x
__________________________________________________________________
Hey *****
I guess I didn't know you that well and I wish I'd gotten to know you better.
I didn't have any lessons with you and I wasn't in your form,but I know the
impact you made on us all when you left,
Wherever you are,I hope you are safe,
J x x x
__________________________________________________________________
To *****
I hope that you have a great 16th birthday wherever you are,and that you are safe.
I'll be thinking of you all day.
This photo album is so nice,it will remind you of all the great times we've had together,and hopefully when you come backwe'll be able to have some more.
I always took for granted that you'd be at school,but now that you're not I realise just how much of a friend you are to me
Hope to see you soon
H x x x x
__________________________________________________________________
You see,whatever he has told you,your friends and family still love you babes
I haven't been able to pass this on to my daughter yet and am not sure if I ever will,so I'm going to post a few extracts here,in the hope that one day she will see them.
The book is full of photos,some of which we had never seen,natural,happy shots taken with mobile phones.These pics mean so much to me,the natural image of my happy daughter,before her life was torn appart .
__________________________________________________________________
To *****
Remember the good times?
French,icing,friends,hangouts and Mk trips?
We miss you
We love you
Happy 16th Birthday!=D
Love T
__________________________________________________________________
Happy 16th
Just wish we were there to share this birthday with you:)
-just knowing you are safe would make us happy
Meet up again someday?
That'd be great
Hope to see you safe and well,
E x
__________________________________________________________________
To *****
Happy 16th Birthday !:)
I hope you have a great day bbe and I'll be thinking of you:)
It would be great if you could get in contact with one of us just so we know you're safe and as happy as you deserve to be
I love you so much *****
never forget that
Lots of love L xxxxx
__________________________________________________________________
*****
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
I hope you have a wonderful day,wherever you are.
We still miss you loads,and it would put our hearts at ease if we could know you are OK,
but as long as you are happy it doesn't matter:)
You're missed loads,so I hope we get a chance to gather up in a big group and chat some day,
Love C xxxx
__________________________________________________________________
Dear *****
Love you so much and I miss you loads.I hope you come back so we can celebrate your birthday together with trampoline fun and going crazy in the shed!
We had so much fun that day-I'll never forget it.
I think about you all the time and I can't wait to see you again,
Lots & lots of love
K
__________________________________________________________________
Dear *****
I miss you more than anything and I know that when you get back you"ll look through this album and remember the good times.
I love you so much,
counting the days until you come home
xxx A xxx
__________________________________________________________________
Hi *****:)
I'm sitting here in your garden a few days before your birthday and it doesn't feel right.
I wish you were here babes=C
Happy 16th birthday!
I love you so much and I really hope you'll be back as soon as you can.
We all miss you so much =C
Love T xxx
__________________________________________________________________
Grief and worry eats into my soul.
wish you were here,I couldn't wish more x x x
Happy 16th birthday *****
I miss you :(
Remember last year? lol
Bing back the good times
__________________________________________________________________
We all miss you so much *****
Geography isn't the same when you are not next to me.
I hope you are safe and well,I really hope you are happy too
Love you so much
S x x x
__________________________________________________________________
Hey *****
I guess I didn't know you that well and I wish I'd gotten to know you better.
I didn't have any lessons with you and I wasn't in your form,but I know the
impact you made on us all when you left,
Wherever you are,I hope you are safe,
J x x x
__________________________________________________________________
To *****
I hope that you have a great 16th birthday wherever you are,and that you are safe.
I'll be thinking of you all day.
This photo album is so nice,it will remind you of all the great times we've had together,and hopefully when you come backwe'll be able to have some more.
I always took for granted that you'd be at school,but now that you're not I realise just how much of a friend you are to me
Hope to see you soon
H x x x x
__________________________________________________________________
You see,whatever he has told you,your friends and family still love you babes
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